The way it started sounded so ature until the threat if you file documents. First off, you have the upper hand. You have the where with all to pay all the debt, which she had a hand in creating plus paying for the cars (you did use the word paymets). You're willing to do that and give her half the savings but you can't see your own kids nor ever hear from them again if you file for visitation or joint custody. To add insult to injury she say to cut ties until she feels they're ready to see you. This sounds like she gets the gold mine and you get the shaft. I'd wonder where she got her degree in child behavioral science/ I suggest you file for joint custody and visitation rights. Otherwise for everything she wants, there a quid pro quo. She wants half the savings, you get visitation every weekend; she wants a car, you get a say so in any decision that affects their welfare. You need to stand up for your rights or I got a funny feeling you'll never see those kids once she leaves and what's worse she's coming bak in a few motnhs and demand support for them after you've been generous.

She's being a tad unrealistic, don't you think?

Besides, no judge would allow her to infringe on your kids rights to maintain a healthy relationship with you.

Go file, she'll soon find out she can't call the shots like that. Be fair and reasonable and don't fight over the petty stuff, but your kids are not the petty stuff, they are worth you fighting for. let the court know she's threatened to run/hide the kids, you may be seen as the more appropriate parent and get custody... file for an emergency custody order now before she gets the chance to leave.

This man needs alwyer and right away. That is no deal she is offering you. What cebntury is she from? She can't decided to keep those kids from you. Good grief.

Pleas get legal counsel, file for custody of the kids, if she takes off with them, jail will be her next stop. Do not let her buffalo you. She is free to leave without the children. She does not have the authority to tell you when the children are ready to see their father. I worry about kids with these 'all or nothing, my way or the highway" parents; I am not trying to scare you but that is not rational, and sometimes that sort of language and behavior is an inkling of a family annilator. You need to mentiont hese threats to the atty. Right now, house sna debt, is not your worry, the health and sfety of the children are your concern. watch her cl;osely and do not tell her you have been to an atty until you have a plan for the children's safety. a threat like that IS enough to get a restraining order. #-0 years ago, I would have Pooh -poohed her threats as mere rhetoric, but today... you have to take it seriously, your children are depending on you to keep them safe, at home.