Pa. Pre-Divorce Questions/Looking for a Well Seasoned Divorce Attorney, ASAP!

I'm going to try to put question/s in short order: A "forced" marriage, nearly 28yrs, two sons, over 18, lazy wife, won't work, has had proven "numerous" affairs, etc. Husband, a worker, loyal, "stayed" for the kids syndrome, pays the bills (forced to, w/out her pitching in) wants out! Son threatens Dad's life, won't work, has girlfriend's living there w/her baby, spending all husbands money, can't get them out! I know the wife has to stay, out of Pa. force! So, been told he needs to get a Protection Order for the son, in order for him to abandon his home longer than 48hrs, in order to not lose his 50%! Also know this state says she gets half the earnings, half this and that, this law needs to be changed, it's like a business for these con artists! Why & how can this be set up, in order for a judge to see this woman is a user, cheater, lazy, made near zero money contributions to the home, and no children to finish raising! How much & in what dollar manner is she awarded during the process of a divorce? Is she entitled to live in a large home & he has to keep paying for everything & his own roof over his head elsewhere? Do the laws say she gets to have high end cable, internet, high car gas bills, paying for everyone & their brother? Can she be forced to be "downsized" now & or during a divorce, or even the final divorce? Why does this state award bad behavior? And who can a citizen complain to about this theft of a law? Thanks!