I think that your headline says it all.

It is very unfortunate that he feels this way, after all that you have done for him.

However, as you say, she is his daughter, and as the saying goes, blood is thicker than water.

Don't go into a screaming hissy fit and change your phone number. Just be polite and dignified about it. Help him pack up, say a polite good-bye, and then just get on with your life. Do something new for yourself, learn salsa dancing or Italian cooking or whatever it takes to get out of the house and meet someone new.

Who knows, he may change his mind and contact you again - but let him be the one to make the first move.

You did all the right things and stuck by him when things got rough. But seems as though from what you said he is either eager to go and live life with his daughter or has her in his ear.

But honestly this is a decision only you make.
I personally on the other hand would yes cut all ties. Its not fair on you, especially after all you have done that you sit back and continue to think about him and wait for his brief 5 minute phone calls. Moving on could be the best thing for you. If you dont want to change your phone number you could just start to not answer the calls on occassion and explain to him your happy hes happy but it needs to end in order for you to move on since he has.
If you arent comfortable doing that, then yes i would change your phone number and start fresh. As much as the pain of breaking up is horrible, after it is all over you will feel better.

I dont think its right for you to sick back and just wait for the if and when hopes that he might change his mind and contact you. You werent the one who upped and left so in my opinion the ball is now in your court, and you need to do whats best for you.
Best of luck and chin up! :)

From your description, your boyfriend does not sound as though he is committed to you or your relationship. I wonder if he knew his about his daughter's Christmas plans and did not fill you in. And his stroke may have made him and his daughter more aware of his mortality and they decided they wanted to be in closer proximity.

Prepare yourself to move on. If I were you, I wouldn't waste anymore time on this man. Consider yourself first and do whatever is necessary to heal.

Even if he was very committed to the relationship prior to his stroke, the stroke may have altered his mind, feelings, and what direction he wants to take in life in general moving forward. It is a shame that he apparently doesn't want to sit down and have an open, honest, candid discussion about the whole thing. You did something incredibly amazing by helping him out that much when he needed it most, and it just reflects upon his character (not yours) as to how he is now treating you after that. Though I do not think that changing your number is necessary as you can just make heavy use of your called ID, I do think that letting this now past relationship slowly fade is best while you move on. I know it's going to take a while to heal, and please do take the time you need, but you will recover and be even stronger than before. If you want to be in a relationship again, there is definitely someone out there who will love you for you and not just leave when things are hard. But, in order to find that, you'll need to heal yourself first or you'll just attract the same type of person all over again. Things will get better, but I also think it is time to move on from this guy who apparently does not appreciate you for you. Please do take care and I am sorry that this has happened.

I think that your friends are right. The sad part is that he was your first relationship after the divorce. You thought the relationship was special and that you were building a future together. By him calling you to say he is moving, he is also implying that he was merely enjoying your care and company but not truly building a future together. That would give me the sad feeling of betrayal.

I was in a similar situation once, and when he broke up with me it was deeply painful and sad. A few months later, I met a man who truly cares about me and my son. We moved in together and I realize that I am in a much better place and with a much better man.

If you want to be in a relationship, keep looking. I promise something bigger and better is waiting for you.

As far as the ex-etiquette goes, that's a tough one. I would be furious and not really wanting to "stay friends". I wouldn't change the phone number though...too dramatic.

Hang in there. I am so sorry for your pain and wishing you better days ahead.

Usually when things don't make sense it means there is money involved. Perhaps he is going to get disability money which motivated the daughter to take him in.

Only a guess.

I don't think you have to change your life, or your number just move on.

Life is strange . . . and men are stranger. Who knows what goes on in their thick skulls!

Walk away and don't look back. Don't live your life waiting for a man to decide if he wants you or not. You deserve better. Go out and live your life without him. If he calls, be polite, but remember, he chose NOT to be a part of your life. So don't be hanging around the house waiting for him to call you. In fact, if you have caller ID, just don't answer when he calls. You've been waiting on him hand and foot for months - it is time for him to wake up and smell the coffee. You can only use someone so much before they get used up.

Women have a tendency to mentally make plans and then, when things don't go 'as planned' we kind of get 'stuck'. It is a 'mind-set'. So - Unstick yourself and go do something for yourself for a change. You did a Noble Deed by helping out a friend after he became ill. You are a wonderful person and a good humanitarian. BUT - Life does not end right there. That was just a 'phase' you went through - a chapter in your life - a growing experience. You've learned something and now it is time to leave this chapter and go learn something a little more fun for YOU.

I wish you joy, hope and love in your life.

It seems that he has moved on. There are no marital ties or other obligations keeping you two connected. I would move on. It sounds to me that he is very happy living with his daughter and her family.

I know it is tough not to feel bad. Your efforts to nurse him back to health will be rewarded. So did a good thing by doing that. You never know, the right guy may come along really soon.

It must have been hard to change your life when your boyfriend became gravely ill. You had entered into the relationship with no thoughts of how long it would last and then find yourself being a nurse to this very sick individual. Events such as that change the dynamics of a relationship very quickly.
You cared for your boyfriend and he got better and that is wonderful. I am sure you did so without any thought to yourself. Now it seems like you are being kicked to the side because he has decided to move miles away to live with his daughter. From the sounds of it she did not have much to do with her fathers recovery. Not knowing what type of relationship father and daughter had it is hard to see the motives behind their actions. However it is apparent that with his new move there will be little to no room for you. Take this as a learning experience. You were involved with a man that eventually urgently needed your care and now that you have done your part it is time for him to move on. If you believe in destiny or fate then you can chalk it up to being exactly where you needed to be for a time. I am certain he will miss you and may even come to regret his decision but for now you need to take time for you and if that means no longer answering his calls then that is what you must do. I am sure his illness took a toll on you emotionally if not physically as well. Time to move on and if you are meant to be with the man you will meet again some day.

Many thanks to all who relied. I find it very hard to choose the best answer, they are all very good. I most appreciate your advice and opinions. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, this makes the second man who has left me. Maybe this is just meant to be, who knows. But I almost feel like I was just used. The daughter totally ignored her father for the first 6 months and then just took him away. I did the things I did for him because I love and care for him and never asked for anything in return. I have lots of love to give to the right person.
Again many thanks!